Improve Self-Confidence & Self-Esteem With Empowering Beliefs
An empowering belief is an experience being sure that something or someone exists or that something is true and it’s a belief that makes you stronger.
Beliefs are defined as assumptions people make about themselves, about other people and about what makes the world go round.
Beliefs are about how we presume things are, what we think is true and what we thus expect as likely results that will follow from our actions.
The various ideas you regard as true and use as a solid foundation for daily action!
Beliefs can be both permissible and limiting.
Your beliefs and actions that follow based on your beliefs shape your life.
Your chances of success, of reaching what you aim for, go up as soon as you are aware of your own firm beliefs.
Knowing how they affect you can help you put more weight on the beliefs that will support the life you wish for.
Broadly spoken, beliefs can be found in two different flavors.
1. Beliefs as a generalization of reality:
a. “The world is” …”, “People are…”,”Life is”, “I am”
2. Beliefs are conditional rules:
a. “If this, then that,” “If I had won the lottery, I would be rich. ” “I have to do everything perfectly all the time to be successful”, “For me to feel loved, my children must obey me 100 percent of the time without complaint” “If you do good, good will come back threefold”
When a particular person owns a belief, this individual consciously accepts this belief.
This can range from mild approval to certain absoluteness.
So it would prove pointless to suggest that a person has these beliefs without them realizing it, or for them to reject their own beliefs.
The phrase “limiting belief” is used for a belief that prevents exploration of a wider cognitive space than would otherwise be the case.
A limiting belief holds us back.
Illustrations of limiting beliefs can be found in most people.
Not many of us are immune to them.
These limiting beliefs might be strongly held beliefs and are often tied in with self-image or opinions about the world.
Beliefs may be irrational and limiting to us.
And they can be hard to get rid off.
Possibly because they have been around since we were young and they continued to strengthen over the years due to self-reinforcing experiences.
Limiting beliefs occur when we form a belief based on incomplete or false information and that belief later limits what we believe to be possible for us.
Although we like to think that what we believe to be true really is true, in fact, almost all of us have limited and false beliefs that negatively affect our life in various ways.
Here are a couple of everyday examples of limiting and self-defeating beliefs:
- That someone has particular talents, roles, or traits that can’t be changed
- People who’re optimistic are not realistic.
- It’s a dog-eat-dog world!
- That a particular action or result will be the only method to resolve a certain issue.
- If I’m pleased now, I will not be motivated to alter something in the future.
- I cannot change. This is just the way I am.
- That a specific opinion is correct so there isn’t any point thinking about other viewpoints.
- Controlling my feelings will turn me into a robot.
- I need love, sex, or money to be happy.
- If I do not feel guilty about what I did, I’ll continue to do bad stuff.
- I can’t succeed so there isn’t any point to even bother
- No pain, no gain
- If I were pleased all the time, I’d be an idiot.
- My emotions come naturally, not something I can control.
- You can’t have your cake and eat it too.
- If happiness were my priority, I’d be inconsiderate of other people.
Beliefs are your idea of reality.
Beliefs are wide-ranging, and studying where they originate and how they work is crucial to begin changing them.
Beliefs are the views we have about who we are and about how the world works.
We have seen some examples of limiting and self-defeating beliefs.
Now wouldn’t it be fabulous to be able to develop some empowering beliefs then?
How to develop empowering beliefs and improve self-confidence & self-esteem?
People agree the blueprint for success is held inside you.
Your beliefs are your greatest weakness or your strongest asset.
You can choose.
Here are five steps to help you develop empowering beliefs or in other words a successful mindset.
1. Be aware of your negative thoughts.
Our thoughts can make or break us.
Negative thoughts easily sneak into our internal dialogue.
We assume things like, “This is a bad day,” or “I am not productive,” or even, “I’m terrible at this or that.”
These negative thoughts spread through our life and have a strong impact on our beliefs.
When we assume things like, “I’m lousy at saving money,””I’ll never be fit“, it becomes real.
If you keep giving attention to negative thoughts, they will get stronger and stronger!
You can remove harmful thoughts by recognizing them.
Try to pause when you find yourself thinking these negative thoughts and reflect on them.
Ask yourself questions like:
- Is this indeed what I believe?
- What causes me to have this idea?
- Do I have these thoughts often?
By taking a closer look at your negative judgments, you begin to take away their strength.
It takes some work and self-control to recognize them, however, as you start to observe your thoughts, you’ll become better at stopping them before damage is done.
You can then break the cycle by moving your center of attention to something positive.
2. Practice positive affirmations.
Another way to fill your mind with positive thoughts and to help you drop the negative ones is to use positive affirmations.
A positive affirmation is a declaration, which by repetition, becomes implanted, in the subconscious mind.
Affirmations can be conceived to help you through anything.
If, for instance, you notice yourself thinking, “I suck at saving money” then a positive affirmation to change that limiting belief might be “I love saving money, and I am grateful for the savings I am building.”
Or “I know how to handle money.”
There is no best way to use affirmations.
Some people use them to counterbalance negative thoughts.
Others recite their favorite ones in the early morning or before going to sleep.
Affirmation are based on the following principles:
- Your present reality is a direct result of your thinking
- Change your thinking and your reality changes
- Affirmations change your thinking
Two important beliefs you might want to adopt through affirmations are:
- “The past doesn’t equal the future”
- “There is always a way if I’m committed”
3. Be Thankful
Gratitude may well be the most positive success tactic available.
We often complain about what we do not have instead of being grateful for what we do have.
It’s the calm and peace which comes over you when you stop complaining.
When you no longer believe “I’ll be happy when I’m …” or “I’ll be successful when I’m …” you will be allowed to be happy and feel successful right now.
Now that doesn’t mean you can’t or shouldn’t have goals.
Gratitude makes it possible to concentrate on those goals as goals and enjoy the road leading to their fulfillment.
Some people find power in the daily ritual of writing a gratitude journal.
This daily practice helps them recognize all that they already enjoy.
However, others prefer to tick off what they’re thankful for in their head or to recognize things to be grateful for on an ongoing basis.
Try a gratitude journal and see what it does to your life.
In a gratitude journal, everything you write down must be positive and you can only list something you’re thankful for once.
So no repeating entries.
Look for the positive in all.
4. Be aware of myths about success
Many people are convinced success is always the result of hard work and luck.
About being in the right place at the right time.
Many are certain the rich get richer, and the poor get poorer.
Nothing comes easy, and you have to pay your dues to be successful.
Do you still have some limiting preconceptions holding you back?
Which ones are still important for you either consciously or unconsciously?
Forget about the myths others told you about.
Find out for yourself if they hold any truth.
Or if they are merely ideas that for one reason or another stuck with you when you grew up.
If you’re able to let go of these myths and create empowering beliefs about money and success, success will be one step closer.
This brings us to the last step in developing empowering beliefs: how do you define success?
5. How Do You Define Success
Most of us look at how others are doing when we have to answer the question what defines success.
And this measurement against others is often expressed in terms of having.
We compare with others what we have (where we live, what car we drive, what we earn) before we answer that question.
But this is a narrow way to view and measure success.
What about defining success by what you are and what you do.
You might define success as having peace of mind, being good to others, being in good health, spending enough time with your family, or enjoying your job.
You might decide that you are already successful!
If you think you have limiting beliefs that could sabotage your self-confidence & self-esteem or reaching your goals, and you can’t remove them by yourself, it would be wise to work on them through counseling.